Teaching students how to fail can be a key component in
their success. While this may seem contradictory, you must understand what I
mean when I say "teaching students how to fail." I am not saying we
should set our students up to fail or encourage students to perform inadequately.
We should, however, prepare our students for the times they might fail despite
their greatest effort. If used correctly, failure can be a tool through which
students can develop many characteristics needed to succeed. This can include
coping skills, emotional resilience, creative thinking, and the ability to
collaborate. This
article from allprodad.com gives a list of 10 things to teach your kids about
failure.
In this video, Margie
Warrell discusses the negative consequences of encouraging children to be
overly competitive and gives several suggestions for allowing students to develop
their own naturally competitive spirit. When students are able to find it
within themselves to do better and accept failure as a part of that process, their
resilience will make them stronger and more successful. This
article from parents.com gives several examples of how to improve confidence in
a child. Teachers and parents should be good role models for our students and
children. We must be an example of how to handle our own shortcomings. When we
forget something or fail to complete a task, we should focus on what we did
well and what we will do better next time. This is the same thing we should
teach our students. Carl Sommer's book "Schools In Crisis: Training For Success or Failure?"discusses the many shortcomings of our public school system and suggest several sollutions to these progblems. It is an excelent resource for teachers, and the entire book can be viewed and downloaded here.
Even though we
try to prevent it, our students will fail tests, strike out, and forget lines
in the school play. Although these are not ideal outcomes, there are good
things that can be found in these failures. Perhaps the students that failed
the test did better than previous tests. Johnny might have struck out at the
game tonight, but he caught the most fly balls. Sarah might have forgotten a
line in the school play, but she improvised and recovered quickly. Encouraging
students to reflect on what they did well will also help them improve their
performance next time. The student that did slightly better on a test might
realize the importance of studying in advance and making flashcards. The
athlete could collaborate with another teammate who is good a hitting, but
struggles with catching. The actress might try some new techniques to lesson
her stage fright while continuing to develop her excellent improvisation
skills. Promoting skills like leadership, teamwork, and reflection are more
important than whether a student actually succeeds at doing something. With the
proper tools, that student will develop much further than if they had been
pressured to win and reprimanded for failing.
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